The Power of Commitment
What comes to mind when you think about the word ‘commitment’? Do you feel a sense of overwhelm and lack of freedom, or do you think affectionately about the things, people, places or beliefs that you are you committed to in your life? Perhaps something entirely different bubbles to the surface?
Commitments made from a place of ‘I should, I ought to, or I must’ often bring resentment, restriction and guilt, combined with a sense of tension in our body, because they contract us energetically rather than helping us expand. Commitments made in this way are not really commitments at all – they are more like entrapments. In contrast, making a commitment to something you really want and believe in can unlock your creativity, enable you to take action and attract into your life all the people, places and resources to help you make your dreams come true.
So why is it that so many of us find it easy to commit to things we don’t want and hard to commit to things we do?
When guilt and fear play the leading roles in our mind, we can find ourselves getting trapped in commitments we resent. When we give way to the guilt gremlin we can find ourselves struggling to say ‘No!’. It’s interesting how such a small word can be so hard to say. Not being able to say no has resulted in politicians leading countries wearing blinkers into warzones, and our collective fear of the word is currently creating environmental crisis around the globe as we continuously destroy Mother Nature. Often we fall into commitments we don’t really want because we feel too guilty to say no. It feels like the easier option at the time, but in the long run this costs us far more. It not only costs us our time, but the attached resentment can also cost us our health, our relationships and the connection with our soul. How many things are you saying yes to on a daily basis when you really mean no? What stops you from saying no? What would make it easier to say no?
“Never ever say yes when you mean no – and never say yes first, meaning to say no later… In the end whether they know it or not, the greatest gift you can give others is to tell them the truth… No is what you think of yourself, the value you put on your time, your abilities, your thoughts, your spirit. You are who you no.” Beth Wareham
By learning to say no to the things you don’t want to be committed to, you are in turn saying yes to yourself and creating space to attract into your life the things, people and places you want to be involved with.
Saying ‘No’ to someone else = Saying ‘Yes’ to yourself
Many of us find it difficult to say yes to ourselves and honour our own needs and desires, because this means putting ourselves first, which we can equate to being ‘selfish’. So we stay trapped in lives of guilt and fear, because we are unable to love ourselves above all else. The problem with that is unless we learn to honour our own needs and desires, and help ourselves become self-full, we are not truly able to help others. Only when our own needs are met can we truly be of service to those around us.
When we love ourselves, it is easy to love others and for others to love us. This in turn improves our relationships and work conditions. Loving ourselves is the key ingredient for good health. Love of self and love of life connects us with the prosperity of the Universe. Self love creates self-expression and allows us to be creative in deeply fulfilling ways.. Love yourself and love your life. -Louise Hay
Loving ourselves means saying yes to the things we want in life and saying no to those we don’t. When we allow fear to control the decisions we make about our commitments, we prevent ourselves from connecting with our inner guidance and with the love we have within us. Fear blocks us from moving forward and going for what we want and causes us to procrastinate. Fear comes in all shapes and sizes; fear of failure, fear of success, fear of the overwhelming size of what we want, plus a few other fears rolled in for good measure. Fear can often point at the thing we most want to do, but then stop us from doing it. In this way fear creates internal resistance to commitment, but if we can break through it we can reconnect with our passion for something and find inner excitement to replace the fear. We may also put off committing ourselves to something because we’re frightened of getting it wrong, and instead want to do things perfectly. Giving ourselves the permission to do things ‘good enough’ can help us release perfectionism and move forward to take action.
If we become aware of thoughts of guilt and our fears, notice them, acknowledge them, and accept them; we are then able to consciously intervene, before they have the chance to limit our vision and choices. We can replace the movie in our mind with one that values our highest self, that holds unconditional positive regard, respects our needs and allows us to give ourselves self-love, nurture and care. We can choose to follow our passions, take action from a place of love and make decisions that are aligned with what we really want.
What we experience is really our state of mind projected outward upon a screen called ‘the world’… What our mind projects becomes our perception… Our mind is actually the director, producer, script-writer, film editor, cast, projectionist, audience and critic. Our mind, being limitless, has the capacity of changing the movie and everything about it at any time. Our mind has the power of making all decisions. -Jerry Jampolsky
When we chose to let go of guilt and fear we can choose love instead and commit ourselves to things, people, places and projects that resonate with our desires for what we want to create in the world, for who we want to be, and with what we want to have. And with commitment made from a place of love comes abound coincidences and synchronicities, all the resources, assistance and required to help us fulfill our potential and live in alignment with the deepest desires of our heart, searchings of our soul and passions of our life purpose.
Commitment unlocks the doors of imagination, allows vision, and gives us the ” right stuff” to turn our dreams into reality. – James Womack
The power of commitment comes from trusting yourself, honouring yourself and allowing yourself to fulfill your true potential. Saying no to things that contract your energy and yes to those that expand it. Letting go of fear and guilt. And committing yourself wholeheartedly to that, which feels good, sustains you, excites you, expands you and enables you to create a life you love.
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.” – Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
Commit today to taking one step forward towards being true to yourself, your dreams and to living your life fully. Begin the one thing you have been putting off committing yourself to and you will experience the incredible power of commitment in your life. Take one small action now to express your commitment to your bigger goal, one small step is all you need to start the ball rolling.